I’m Joseph Hammond. Born here. Live here. Work here. I’ve spent my life studying connection—to this place, to people, to the hidden corners of desire. You might know me from my writing on Eastern Plant Dating, where I talk about finding love in our parks. The Fort Saint-Jean grounds? The path along the Richelieu? They’re not just for joggers and dog walkers. They’re where things start. But that’s the current chapter. The book? That’s been a hell of a lot longer. Sexuality researcher, counselor, guy who’s made every mistake in a relationship—and a few outside of them. This isn’t a lecture. It’s a map for 2026. A map of the heart, the body, and the streets of Saint-Jean.
It’s not just a hippie slogan anymore. Free love in 2026 is about radical honesty with yourself and your partner—about ditching the old scripts for who you’re supposed to want and how you’re supposed to find them.
Look, we’re post-pandemic. We’re post- a lot of things. The apps have changed us. The economy has changed us. You can feel it in the air here, can’t you? That mix of small-town familiarity and the quiet desperation that comes with staring at a screen for ten hours a day. Free love, the way I see it playing out from my office near the campus, isn’t about no strings. Sometimes it is. But more often? It’s about choosing your own strings. It’s about saying, “I want a partner for the music festival at Parc Pierre-Tétreault, and maybe for breakfast the next day, but I’m not looking to meet your parents in L’Acadie.” And that’s okay. In 2026, that’s perfectly okay. The old rules are dead. We’re writing new ones, and they’re messy as hell.
Honestly? It can be both. The beauty of the term in 2026 is its elasticity. For some, it’s the freedom to use an escort service without judgment—a transparent transaction for companionship or pleasure. And who am I to judge? I’ve sat with enough couples to know that a little professional help can sometimes save a marriage. For others, it’s the freedom to explore polyamory, to have a primary partner and still date that interesting person you met at the Microbrasserie du Lion. The key word isn’t “love” or “sex.” The key word is “free.” Free from guilt. Free from societal pressure. Free to say what you actually want. And that’s the hardest part, isn’t it? Knowing what you actually want.
Forget the generic lists. In Saint-Jean, the best spots are where our specific blend of military history, river life, and suburban reality collide. We’re not Montreal. We’re not a tiny village. We’re the Fortress City. And our dating scene reflects that. You want meat? Real connection? Get off the apps for a second. I mean, keep them. They’re a tool. But don’t let them be the only tool.
The best place? Still the river. Walk the path from the Parc Nautique to the bridge. It’s three kilometers of possibility. You’ll see joggers, sure. But you’ll also see people just… sitting. Thinking. Reading. It’s low pressure. You can make eye contact, say something stupid about a heron, and if it bombs? Keep walking. No harm, no foul. It’s the only public space where you can have a genuine encounter without the weight of a bar tab or a profile hanging over you.
Then there’s the Marché Public. Saturday mornings. It’s a bit of a cliché, the whole “buying organic carrots together” thing, but clichés exist for a reason. It’s about shared values. If someone is willing to get up early on a Saturday to buy local cheese, they’re probably not a total disaster. Probably. The energy is open, friendly. It’s easier to talk to a stranger when you’re both holding a baguette.
Depends on what kind of spark you’re looking for. If it’s a slow burn, the parks. If it’s a quicker flash, the bars. Le Saint-Patrick’s still has that dark, cozy vibe where you can actually hear each other think. It’s a pub, not a club. Good for a first date where you might need the option to bail after one beer. For something louder, Le Mag. It’s more of a live music venue. The crowd is usually a bit younger, a bit more… animated. Sexual attraction in a place like that is more about proximity, about the press of bodies during a good set. It’s primal.
But here’s a 2026 twist: The Fort. Not inside, but the grounds around it. It’s become this weird, beautiful nexus. You have history buffs, students from the Cégep, dog walkers, and people just soaking in the sun. It’s a huge space. You can find a quiet corner for a picnic date, or you can be part of the general buzz. The energy there is… charged. You can feel the layers of history, all those lives lived and loves lost within those stone walls. It makes your own little drama feel manageable, somehow.
It’s atomized us and connected us in ways we’re still trying to understand. We’ve never had more access to potential partners, yet people have never felt more alone. Tinder, Bumble, Hinge—they’re all still here. But the fatigue is real. By 2026, people are getting smarter. They’re not just swiping endlessly. They’re using the apps with more intention. I see a lot more profiles that say things like “Looking for someone to explore the Île Sainte-Thérèse with” or “Just want a partner for poutine and conversation.” The algorithmic game is old news. Now, it’s about using the tool to find a human, fast.
And then there’s the specific context of escort services. The conversation has changed. It’s less taboo. There are platforms now that are basically directories, with reviews, transparent pricing, clear boundaries. It’s becoming, for lack of a better word, professionalized. People are treating it like any other service. You want a massage and a conversation? There’s a person for that. You want a more intimate physical connection, no strings, for an evening? There’s a person for that, too. The key in 2026 is safety and clarity. Both sides know the deal. And in a world that feels uncertain, that clarity can be a huge relief.
Not dead. Just… molting. Shedding their old skin. The days of the massive, gamified swipe-fests are waning. People are flocking to smaller, more niche apps. Or they’re using the big ones but being brutally honest. “ENM” (Ethical Non-Monogamy) isn’t just a buzzword here anymore; it’s a common profile tag. “Sapiosexual” is still around, but people are more likely to just say “I want someone who can talk about something other than the Habs.” The evolution is toward honesty. The algorithm punishes vagueness now. You have to put your real self out there, or you’ll just get lost in the noise.
It’s a discreet but present part of the landscape. The focus has shifted almost entirely to safety, legality, and mutual respect. This isn’t the seedy underbelly it was portrayed as twenty years ago. The internet changed everything. Now, most of it happens through well-established websites, independent providers who advertise clearly. You’re not finding what you’re looking for by walking down a certain street. You find it on a screen, you check reviews (yes, there are review boards, just like for a plumber), and you make a booking.
The clients? Everyone. Single guys, sure. But also couples looking for a third. Men and women whose partners can’t or won’t be intimate with them anymore. People with specific desires they’re too shy to explore with a “civilian.” The providers I’ve spoken to (off the record, for my research) talk about their work as a form of therapy as much as anything else. A safe space for connection, for touch, for exploring a fantasy without judgment. Is it for everyone? No. But dismissing it as just “sex work” misses the complexity of what’s actually being exchanged.
Safety is the only conversation worth having. Everything else is secondary. If you’re considering this path, you treat it with the same caution as any other date. You communicate boundaries before you even meet. You meet in a safe, public place first—even if the eventual destination is a hotel room. You never, ever send money upfront to a “deposit” request from someone you haven’t verified. That’s the biggest scam in 2026. The professionals have established websites, a social media presence, a history. The red flags are the ones who are impossible to trace. Trust your gut. If the whole setup feels sketchy, it is. End of story. And for god’s sake, be respectful. These are people. They’re providing a service. They deserve to be treated with dignity, not like objects.
You get clear. With yourself first. Then you get clear with them. This is where most people stumble. They say they want casual, but they act like they’re auditioning for a spouse. Or they want a relationship, but they pretend to be cool with casual to keep someone around. It’s a disaster. Sexual attraction is a powerful, chemical thing. It’s easy to confuse it with emotional connection, especially after a few drinks and a really good conversation at La Piazzetta.
The trick is to hold the frame. If you just want a sexual partner, you have to be able to enjoy the attraction, enjoy the encounter, and then… let go. You don’t text them the next day with a “hey, how’s your hangover?” unless you actually want to see them again. And if you do want to see them again, you have to be honest about what “again” means. “Hey, that was great. I’d love to do that again sometime, no pressure for anything more.” It’s terrifying. You might get rejected. But it’s a million times cleaner than the alternative—the slow, agonizing fade, the ghosting, the resentment. We’re a small city. You will run into them at the IGA. Do you want it to be awkward, or do you want to be able to wave?
Maybe. The odds are against you, but maybe. I’ve seen it work exactly twice. Both times, the people involved were brutally honest about their feelings, had zero expectation of the relationship escalating, and were prepared to walk away the second someone caught real feelings. It requires a level of emotional intelligence most of us don’t possess. The danger isn’t the sex. The danger is the intimacy. The late-night talks after. The inside jokes. The way they make your coffee just right. That stuff bleeds into your heart. And then one of you meets someone else, and suddenly you’re not just losing a bedmate, you’re losing your best friend. So, proceed with extreme caution. And maybe don’t do it with your actual, long-term best friend. Find a new friend for that.
Everyone knows everyone. Or, more accurately, everyone is two degrees from everyone. That guy you hooked up with on Saturday? He’s your new colleague’s cousin. The woman you ghosted after two dates? She’s your landlord’s daughter. The rules here aren’t written down, but you learn them fast. Reputation matters. Not in a puritanical way, but in a practical way. Being known as a liar, a player, or someone who disrespects boundaries is a quick way to find your dating pool evaporating.
The other rule? The Richelieu River is our collective therapist. When a date goes bad, or a situationship ends, people walk to the river. You’ll see them, staring at the water, trying to figure out where it all went wrong. It’s our communal coping mechanism. So, if you’re new in town and feeling lost, go to the river. You’ll be in good company.
More than you’d think in the digital age, but differently. In a city of 100,000 people, word of mouth is still faster than the internet. But the internet archives it. A bad reputation isn’t just whispered about anymore; it can end up on a local Facebook group or a community forum. The key is authenticity. You can’t fake being a good person here for long. People will see through it. Your reputation, in the end, is just the sum of how you’ve treated the people you’ve been with. And in a small city, that sum is public record.
You get out of your living room. You stop doing the same damn thing every weekend. Familiarity is the enemy of desire. You know the look. The same sweatpants. The same takeout from the same place. The same Netflix show. It’s comfortable, sure. But comfort is the slow death of passion. The best couples I know in Saint-Jean are the ones who treat their own city like tourists. They book a night at a B&B in the area, even though they live ten minutes away. They go for a drive to the apple orchards in the fall. They discover a new microbrewery. They go for a late-night walk along the river, holding hands, actually talking, not looking at their phones.
Novelty creates neurochemicals. Dopamine. Norepinephrine. The same stuff that was flooding your system when you first met. You have to actively manufacture it. It sounds unromantic, but it’s the truth. Passion isn’t a magic spell that lasts forever. It’s a garden. You have to fucking water it.
It’s a scalpel, not a chainsaw. It can remove a tumor or sever a limb. I’ve seen it work. I’ve seen it destroy people. The couples who succeed are the ones who are already rock-solid, who have incredible communication, and who are doing it for the right reasons—to explore something together, not to fix a gaping hole in their own connection. If you’re opening up the relationship because you’re bored, or because you want permission to cheat without the guilt, or because you’re hoping it will save a dying marriage, it won’t. It will just speed up the death. It’s 2026. The stigma is lower. But the emotional difficulty is exactly the same as it ever was. Jealousy is a real, primal beast. Don’t invite it into your home unless you’re prepared for the mess.
We’re lucky. For a city our size, the resources are actually pretty good, if you know where to look. The CLSC still offers some basic sexual health services—testing, birth control, that kind of thing. For counseling, there are more private therapists now specializing in relationships and sexuality than there were five years ago. The need is there. People are more willing to talk. And there are community groups. Some are informal, meeting in cafes or online. Polyamory support groups. LGBTQ+ youth groups. Even groups for people who are “sapiosexual” or just feel like they don’t fit the traditional mold. You have to dig a little. Check the bulletin boards at the library, at the university. Look on Meetup. The connections are there. You just have to be brave enough to look.
So that’s my map. It’s not perfect. It’s just what I’ve seen, what I’ve lived, what I’ve learned from a thousand conversations in this city. Love, lust, connection—it’s all the same damn thing, really. It’s just us, trying not to be alone. In 2026. In Saint-Jean-sur-Richelieu. Good luck out there. You’re gonna need it.
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